I loooove this! Coat over a flirty dress? Fabulous! :)

I loooove this! Coat over a flirty dress? Fabulous! :)

Marian 2.0

2013 is probably one of the roughest years I’ve had so far. I went through a lot of demanding life changes that required a lot of mature thinking and growing up. But despite all the awful stuff, I am grateful for many things this year. I learned how to be kind yet fierce, and genuinely brave, overall. The ocassional self-doubts and second-guesses are still there, but I’d like to believe I roll with the curveballs of life better now than I did two years ago, one year ago, and six months ago. I am still me, but only better. And my 2014 will rock, for sure. Cheers to positive vibes!

Fashion Must-Try: Dress + Sneakers
Looking at Colleen Garcia in this photo from Instagram, I am thinking of trying it out. Not only do I love dresses, I am also a huge fan of comfort. Pretty and comfy can go together! :)

Fashion Must-Try: Dress + Sneakers

Looking at Colleen Garcia in this photo from Instagram, I am thinking of trying it out. Not only do I love dresses, I am also a huge fan of comfort. Pretty and comfy can go together! :)

Beauty Peg: Julie Anne San Jose

She’s a talented musician and total performance powerhouse. And I just loooove seeing photos of her everywhere. She seems very appreciative of the present success she is having, and looks excited and ready to work hard in the near future for an even more stellar career in entertainment. And did I mention she seems down-to-earth? :)

J.A. is seriously my peg for beauty and looking good overall. She shines by being true to herself, doing the things she likes and is great at. Her posts on social media are also thoughtful and never shallow.

True enough, it’s the happiest girls who are always the most beautiful in the room. <3 

As Hot As T.S.
On my to-do list next weekend: Watch Taylor Swift&#8217;s performance at the 2013 Victoria&#8217;s Secret Fashion Show. When I saw the pictures of her struttin&#8217; her stuff down that runway, she looked super sexy and seemed to be having the time of her life. I hate to admit it, but once in a while, it&#8217;s nice to feel sexy, to feel good in the skin and body you&#8217;re in! Taylor Swift&#8217;s girly charm seemed to highlight how &#8220;kikay&#8221; this event really is. Yes, the models are the reason why guys tune in, but girls love to watch this, too, for the ultra-feminine undergarments that we cannot live without. ;)

As Hot As T.S.

On my to-do list next weekend: Watch Taylor Swift’s performance at the 2013 Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show. When I saw the pictures of her struttin’ her stuff down that runway, she looked super sexy and seemed to be having the time of her life. I hate to admit it, but once in a while, it’s nice to feel sexy, to feel good in the skin and body you’re in! Taylor Swift’s girly charm seemed to highlight how “kikay” this event really is. Yes, the models are the reason why guys tune in, but girls love to watch this, too, for the ultra-feminine undergarments that we cannot live without. ;)

“To be a real traveler, you must be willing to give yourself over to the moment and take yourself out of the center of your universe. You must believe totally in the lives of the people and the places where you find yourself even if it causes you to lose faith in the life you left behind.”
— Letters to my son by Kent Nerburn
“Doesn’t being scared let you know that you’re on to something important? Yeah, I mean if you’re not scared, you’re not taking chances and if you’re not taking chances… THEN WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING?”
— Anonymous
“The antidote to exhaustion is not necessarily rest. The antidote to exhaustion is wholeheartedness. It is those things you do half-heartedly that really wear you out.”
— Fish! Tales

Breaking and Creating Habits

I’m trying my best to kick my habit of telling myself that I am not beautiful. Shallow, really, but it’s a problem when it spirals out of control.

In one of the four Halloween parties I attended this week (tiring but very fun!), I was really stressed out because I was not happy with the way I looked. I know, Halloween is supposed to be this holiday where you don’t have to be all hot and bothered by the way you look, because the entire point is for you to look scary, gross or not your normal self. But in this particular party, I indirectly had intentions of impressing somebody. No wonder the pressure was on!

After the party, I wasn’t sure if I succeeded on my goal. I mean, we barely spoke that night! And when I woke up the next day, I realized I had to be kinder to myself. Didn’t I just post it here that I am trying to work on my self-esteem? If I can rebuild my career from scratch and flourish (more on this soon! Stay tuned), I am sure I am capable of learning to embrace my looks, flaws and all.

And since it has become a stupid habit of mine to think that I am unattractive, it’s going to take a lot of research and planning to launch a newer, extra-positive mindset that won’t crash after kick-off.

I found myself reading this very helpful article on Gwyneth Paltrow’s blog, goop, on "How To Break A Habit". I especially loved these diagrams (courtesy of Random House) she showed there from Charles Duhigg’s book, The Power of Habit, on how to change and create a habit. Very useful guides ah!

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And probably the most valuable thing I’ve learned from this post? The existence of “Keystone Habits”. Apparently, all you need is just one positive habit to start a ripple effect. Charles Duhigg explains:

 ”There are some habits – called keystone habits– that can cause a chain reaction through someone’s life or an organization. A great example of a keystone habit is exercise. When people start habitually exercising, even as infrequently as once a week, they often start changing other, unrelated patterns in their lives. Typically, people who exercise start eating better and getting to work earlier. They smoke less, and show more patience. They use their credit cards less frequently and say they feel less stressed. It’s not completely clear why, but for many people, exercise is a keystone habit that triggers widespread change.”

Hmm… Now I’m curious. I wonder what my keystone habit/s is/are. In the meantime, I will continue with making my plan of kicking my bad habit of telling myself I am not pretty a reality. 

Because the new Marian is action-oriented. :)

My Outfit On Monday

Reading one of my favorite blogs, Scenestealer by Lissa Kahayon, and I came across this photo from her post, Fashion That Fits. The girl above is Patricia Tan from Davao who won a makeover and was styled by Lissa herself. 

I haven’t worn my white pencil skirt for some time now, and seeing this photo made me go, “…This is going to be my outfit on Monday!”

No more Monday Blues for this girl right here. :)